LADIES: 7 Signs That Your Boyfriend Is About To Leave You [A Must Read]
Love and relationships is a beautiful thing and we all would like to
experience them but not all of the time is the person we’re with the
right one for us. This leads to the dreaded “break up” that we all hope
not to go through but it is inevitable and necessary for progress.
We must move on and leave unfulfilling relationships if we want to reach
our goal offinding “the one”. Now I’m no love expert and have no
degrees in studying relationships which to some extent is good because I
am speaking from real experiences and not just statistics but I would
like to share my knowledge to help others in this situation.
I’m only speaking from a woman’s point of view because I can’t speak for what goes on in a man’s mind.
Sometimes we go into denial and blow off obvious signals that he is
about to give you the boot. I will give examples of each sign from my
own past failed relationships to help give you an idea.
This isn’t your typical top ten signs your guy is going to leave you. I’m talking about all of them.
Now I might have missed some so this isn’t the full complete list so if you have more please share with us your experiences.
So what are the signs that your boyfriend is ready to let you go and move on?
He makes comments about attractive women and not so much you
If your guy cares about you, he’ll be complimenting your attractiveness
left and right while ignoring other girls. If he starts commenting about
how sexy another woman is right in front of you and stops commenting on
your sexiness, that’s a sign he’s done with you.
You no longer appeal to him so his eyes are wandering and he doesn’t care if you know it.
Ex: My ex would mention how cute the girls in his film class were right
in front of me and would even suggest me doing things that they did to
try and make myself look better.
He doesn’t do what he says he will/ then does it immediately after you’re gone
Naturally we have to bug guys nonstop to get him to take the trash out
or mow the lawn, that’s normal actually but when it comes to more
important things that’s when it becomes a bad sign. If he goes on about
getting a better job so he can care for his family and never does then
five years go by, that’s a bad sign.
It’s even worse if directly after he lets you go he does it then hooks
up with another. He tells you that he will do things with you but then
mysteriously bails every time it comes up.
Ex: My ex for two years talked about making a film and did nothing with
it until after I was gone. He never took photos of himself but suddenly
after I was gone he became a photo hound taking pictures of himself
nonstop. He promised to take me camping but every time the chance came
he made up excuses to keep it from happening.
He turns you into the bad guy when you haven’t done anything at all Guys
will flip things onto you so that you become the bad one in the
relationship eventhough you might have handled every situation correctly
or what he is accusing you of is untrue. The guy may complain that
you’re being distant, yet he’s the one avoiding you.
He might say you don’t give him enough space, even though you changed your schedule to only see him once a week.
He might say you have no goals when you’re going to school to be a
lawyer while he’s sitting on the couch watching TV all day withno job.
Hopefully you get the point here. It can be anything from them accusing
you of being too dependent to not communicating yet they are the ones
that fit what they are accusing you of being.
Ex: He claimed that I had no goals and just wanted to be a house wife
just because I cleaned his apartment a few times. Just because I didn’t
have a job for five months out of our two year relationship meant I was
lazy. It took me five months to get a new job after I was laid off yet
somehow I was lazy. For two years I worked five days a week all day
except for the five months I was job searching.
He keeps asking about the status of the relationship .
If the guy keeps asking “are we okay”, that’s a problem. Now, asking
about the status of a relationship if it’s early off like just started
dating is something I can pass. When you’re freshly dating, you want to
try to make sure you’re doing things right so you can work on correcting
big problems so that in the long run you’ll be fine but after awhile
you should stop the asking and let things be. By then if your
relationship is good and healthy you won’t even need to be thinking
about if you’re doing well. If out of the blue he starts harassing you
with this question, it’s his way of saying he doesn’t think you’re doing
well together and wants to break it off.
Ex: When my ex and I came to our final months together he used to ask if
our relationship was good every time I saw him. Each time he asked he
worded it differently but it still came down to “are we okay?”
He makes comments/hinting that obviously says he’s done
If he starts making too many jokes about breaking up with you, he
probably does. Every time you get into an issue with him, heshouldn’t be
saying, “Geez you’re annoying. Ishould break up with you.” He starts
hinting that you have nothing in common or hinting that he’s not right
for you.
He may hint that your goals conflict with his even if they don’t. He’s
trying to let you know that you’re not going to be around much longer so
he’s dropping hints.
Ex: My exmade jokes about breaking up with me frequently, even if it
wasn’t attached to something bad. We could be eating out and he would
say he should break up with me because I liked ranch with my fries
instead of ketchup.
Withdrawal, avoiding and ignoring you
Remember the days he used to call or text you when he was on break at
his job? These fly out the window as he starts to ignore you. You end up
going long periods of time without seeing or hearing from him. When you
finally get in touch with him he won’t sound too excited and might want
to rush your interactions to keep them short. To put it short he wants
to keep it short which means he is over you.
Ex: My ex stopped sending and responding to calls and texts. He would
make up excuses to avoid me and I even had friends/family members catch
him in his lies.He would say he was at work thus why we couldn’t be
together but then my brother would catch him at the mall hanging with
friends.
His friends are more important than you
Yes, we all have friends and like to hang with them alone without having
your partner clinging to your hand but when the friends come over you,
there’s a problem. You should have equal time with friends andyour
boyfriend. He might start breaking plans with you for his friends. His
friends get to see him six of the seven days a week and you just get the
one. He’s bored with you and is getting his fun from his pals.
Ex: He would break off important dates/events that we had planned for in advance just to go play games with his friends.
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